As a mom, I want my children's experiences with tech gifts to be productive, whether with a learning toy, or with a serious piece of tech equipment. I also recognize that independent exploration can be just as valuable as programmed direction of a child's learning activities. However, the younger the child, the more direction and supervision is necessary. This is especially true with higher priced tech items such as computers, laptops and netbooks, but can also be a factor in working with tech toys designed for a younger age group.
In our house, we've come to a determination that under age ten, an expensive tech gadget isn't even a consideration as a personal gift, due to maturity issues. Handheld video game systems, netbooks, iPods, and similar sought after items on a child's wish list are too expensive to easily replace, and the kids know, as well, that there is a coming of age sense of trust that will go along with such gifts. They can dream, no doubt, but it's just good sense, from our perspective, to be wise in this sort of gift giving.
Child targeted electronic learning systems, and other tough child gadget gifts, however, if within reach in terms of cost, are equally acceptable as child gifts from about age 4. My children, when in that under 4 age range, haven't really had the interest, nor the need, to spend time with such gadgets, and are much happier with age appropriate toys. From age 4 to 7, electronic learning systems, such as Leapster, have held their attention well, and have been within their capacity to operate. At ages 8-9, there may be a passing glance, but little targeted interest in these early learning electronic gifts. Still, I'm not quite ready to put more expensive gadgets in the hands of my 8-9 year olds, and so I look for non-electronic alternatives in that time frame. One consideration at that age might be a desktop computer, as it is non-portable, and stays anchored in one place, less prone to accidents and damage.
For my sons in that age range, there are some interesting electronics, in terms of race cars, helicopters, and motorized building sets that seem to satisfy the tech interests, while for a daughter in that age group, I tend toward girl gifts like electronic diaries, or text messaging toys. If I see a reasonable demonstration of maturity, I may give way a little bit on game consoles, or iPods, or ereaders. Guidelines are great as a starting point, but need to be evaluated on an individual basis. Watch that you don't create problems with a less responsible child, though, who wonders why they don't get equal treatment at a given age. Have a solid response ready, and discuss the issues that cause you to hesitate in purchasing costly tech presents.
Every home will have different dynamics, every parent, an individual response. When it comes to real tech items, verses tech toys, keep your own interests, as well as your child's, balanced with important factors that give credence to your decision.
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